Should I leave my job?

Q. I feel as if I am at a crossroads in my career. I love my job and team but feel like the company is asking too much of me. I was recently offered a job at a different firm with a higher salary. I don’t know what to do as I really love the people I work with. Help! Name supplied

A. This is a challenge. You’re not asking me a question, so I would like to ask a few myself: What is attractive about the new offer? What stops you from negotiating a better deal where you are now? Who exactly asks too much of you? What have you done to make sure the problem has been made clear?

If you are good at forming working relationships, then there is every reason to expect that you would come to love your new team, too. However, if you have not practised building appropriate boundaries in your working life, then the new job could also end up demanding too much of you.

One idea is to flip a coin. Heads you stay; tails you go! The point is not to obey the chance instruction, but to notice your gut reaction. Does your heart leap or your stomach sink?

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Mary Fenwick is a business coach, journalist, fundraiser, mother, divorcée and widow. Follow Mary on Twitter @MJFenwick. Got a question for Mary? Email mary@psychologies.co.uk, with ‘MARY’ in the subject line.