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Ringing the changes

Rituals, rings and relationships

When I turned 50 I wrote a blog about rings, about the stories they tell, about the bonds they weave.

I had 3 rings made from my wedding ring and my mum’s old gold when I got divorced.  One ring for each son and one for me, with the intention that I would wear them all until they reached 18, when the ring would be passed on, which they might pass on in their turn.

Last week was the first of those days for passing on and as the time came closer, the thought of only 2 instead of 3 rings felt wrong, for although he is older and moving on and out, he is still in my heart and skin and bones.

So we three went to shape and soldier, heat and bend, new rings and shapes to pass on again.

I passed him gold and in exchange, he gave me a copper band to take it’s place.

Because we will always be three, it is just that things change.

10 years ago when the 3 rings were forged, it felt like the day would come where I thought I could let go.

But now I understand that there is no ending, just change,

That the metal might be different, but the circle is the same.


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Julie Leoni

Julie Leoni

Coach, author, podcaster, facilitator, Yoga and psychology teacher, learner

I have over 30 years of experience and qualification in various therapeutic and meditation/mindfulness based approaches. I work with change. Some changes we chose, others happen to us.  Sometimes we know we want to change but don't know how. Sometimes we don't want to change but external events or people are forcing us to change. The menopause, children leaving home, the end of a relationship or job, becoming a parent, coming out, bereavement are just some of the personal changes I support people with. I also work with people who want to make changes to their life and wider world in response to social issues such as Covid, the climate crisis and racial, sexual and gender inequalities. Times are changing whether we want them to or not and we need to be nimble, agile, curious and open in order to part of the new story emerging. Work with me to get clear on what matters to you, what makes your heart sing and what kind of future you want for yourself and those you love. It is possible to live differently, get in touch to explore how.

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