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How not to be lonely

A lone person, alone, might be lonely, but they don’t have to be.

Don’t reach for your phone, panting for connection, instead turn towards what is already here.  Being alone can be a gift of solitude, silence, stillness, spaciousness to just be.

Breathing in to our senses we can experience such fullness, find such company; lady-bird, red campion, daisies closing, blackbird call, fish splash, moon rise, leaf fall, duck paddle, bee hum, bat dart, hazel nut, nettle, ash, willow, dock. Get to know their names, lean into the tree, talk to the bird, hold hands with the wet grass, allow your face to be stroked by the breeze.  Know that the air you breathe is given freely by trees, that the earth quietly holds your weight, your feet, that the insects are working hard so you can eat.

Know this, feel this and loneliness softens, blurs, fades into a gentle connection which has always been there, even when we didn’t see.

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Julie Leoni

Julie Leoni

Coach, author, podcaster, facilitator, Yoga and psychology teacher, learner

I have over 30 years of experience and qualification in various therapeutic and meditation/mindfulness based approaches. I work with change. Some changes we chose, others happen to us.  Sometimes we know we want to change but don't know how. Sometimes we don't want to change but external events or people are forcing us to change. The menopause, children leaving home, the end of a relationship or job, becoming a parent, coming out, bereavement are just some of the personal changes I support people with. I also work with people who want to make changes to their life and wider world in response to social issues such as Covid, the climate crisis and racial, sexual and gender inequalities. Times are changing whether we want them to or not and we need to be nimble, agile, curious and open in order to part of the new story emerging. Work with me to get clear on what matters to you, what makes your heart sing and what kind of future you want for yourself and those you love. It is possible to live differently, get in touch to explore how.

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