How to steal back what love stole from you Once you’re done crying over a lost love, figure out what makes you happy – the things that are not dependent on anyone else – and focus on those, advises Love Is A Thief author Claire Garber Wikipedia describes happiness as an emotional state of wellbeing characterised by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. It does not describe it as an emotional state of wellbeing characterised by wandering around your parents’ house for months on end, crying constantly, wearing the unwashed clothes of your ex-boyfriend. But that is where I found myself on the eve of my 30th birthday. Happiness had left my building. It wasn’t that I was unhappy before. I was happy. I was living with the man of my dreams in a wooden chalet on top of a mountain. We fed each other pieces of cheese and drank glasses of red wine surrounded by snow-covered mountains and Swiss chocolate bars. I sniffed his French neck. He sniffed mine. Then we both experienced Wikipedia’s version of happiness. But that was before the bitter end, when the pieces of our puzzle no longer fitted together, when the cute language barrier suddenly felt like a military blockade and I found myself moving back in with my parents with a small bag of personal belongings and a truckload of emotional baggage. I was like a tree, an uprooted tree that had been yanked out of its soil and lobbed on the ground in a disorientated mess. With nothing to my name – no home, no money, no job, no him – I had absolutely no idea what to do next. Next page.
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