Taking the plunge
It took some time to work myself up to speaking to someone about my yearning feeling. A life coach, Magdalena Bak-Maier, was recommended to me. The indie teen inside me sneered, but I gritted my teeth.
Fifteen minutes into the first session I was crying. Via seemingly simple questions we already got to the nub of my problem – I was ‘stuck’ when it came to my plans for the future.
I was astonished at what came out:
Q: What do I want?
A: A home
Shelter – it’s a basic requirement, right? But it took time before I could admit that it was OK to want this big thing for myself. Magdalena helped me see that it was only me that was stopping me from getting what I needed and, in fact, wanted: a house, which I was avoiding buying because I couldn’t cope with the idea of committing to a mortgage; more independence, but I wouldn’t learn to drive; and future security, because I thought pensions were for people who planned on growing old, and that sure as hell wasn’t me.
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