Psychologies new book Real Calm is out now

We’ve all been there; everything’s going smoothly and then, bam, crisis hits. Whether it’s a family feud or a financial blow, that sense of panic can floor us. And, with everyday stress levels rising, too, having a toolkit for calm in our lives could be the key to our happiness…

1 HOW HAVE YOU BEEN FEELING LATELY?

On edge, trying hard to keep up? Forever trapped in a downward spiral? Constantly firefighting? Filled with an omnipresent sense of dread? Unable to make any decisions? Exhausted and desperately wanting to get away from it all? Withdrawn, or frustrated with people around you?

2 WHAT’S GETTING IN THE WAY OF CALM FOR YOU?

Emotional experience? Our earliest memories of dealing with problems become the guide we follow as adults when anxiety sets in.

You bottle it up? You can keep painting over the cracks but, eventually, you have to strip the walls and start again.

You take on too much? When you push yourself beyond your limits and demands outweigh resources, you need to make space to create balance.

3 REAL CALM, TRUE FREEDOM

‘We believe that creating calm in our life starts with becoming more self-aware,’ says Psychologies Editor, Suzy Greaves. Real Calm gives you tools, tests, techniques and questions to help you to make the right kind of changes. ‘You can’t always control what happens, but true calm is about empowering yourself to decide how you react to these situations. And that is the ultimate freedom.’

Read what people are saying about Real Calm:

‘In our busy lives, creating calmness for ourselves is important. This book is a fantastic guide to exploring what calm means in your life and is full of practical actions to try’ Vanessa King, author of 10 Keys To Happier Living.

Psychologies’ new book Real Calm (Wiley, £9.99) is out now.