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Mind the Gap

Don't make yourself miserable

Mind the gap


What you think you should look like

and what your body is.



what you thought you thought you would be,

and who you are now.



what you thought love was

and how it is daily, between the dishes and the washing machines.



the kind of parent you were going to be

and the tears and the screams.



the kind of kids you dreamed of

and the kids you have.



the one big way you thought you’d change the world,

and the tiny, daily, unnoticed things.



who you think he or she should be,

and who they are in reality.



What your head says,

and what your body and heart communicate.



What society expects of you,

and who you know yourself to be.



What you want,

and what you need.



your words,

and your deeds.



what you know to be true for you,

and how like to please other people.



The wordly treadmill of 9 to 5,

and what you want to do before you die.


Mind the gap indeed,

for the bigger the gap,

the bigger the fall,

the bigger the pain.


 [thank you Jon Lydon for yet another stunning photo]

I am a life coach, yoga and psychology teacher, lecturer, researcher, writer, podcaster, tree hugger, horses lover, wild swimmer, mother, sister and friend.  If you think I sound like the kind of person who might help you find what makes your heart sing, come over to to find out more (free courses, blogs, books etc).  See you there.  Go well. Julie x

Julie Leoni

Julie Leoni

Coach, author, podcaster, facilitator, Yoga and psychology teacher, learner

I have over 30 years of experience and qualification in various therapeutic and meditation/mindfulness based approaches. I work with change. Some changes we chose, others happen to us.  Sometimes we know we want to change but don't know how. Sometimes we don't want to change but external events or people are forcing us to change. The menopause, children leaving home, the end of a relationship or job, becoming a parent, coming out, bereavement are just some of the personal changes I support people with. I also work with people who want to make changes to their life and wider world in response to social issues such as Covid, the climate crisis and racial, sexual and gender inequalities. Times are changing whether we want them to or not and we need to be nimble, agile, curious and open in order to part of the new story emerging. Work with me to get clear on what matters to you, what makes your heart sing and what kind of future you want for yourself and those you love. It is possible to live differently, get in touch to explore how.

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