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Lockdown rebirth

Times of great uncertainty can sometimes lead to tipping points which lead to new ways of living.

I have been sniffing and feeling and pondering and feeling like the earth is moving under my feet and I have been trying to capture sensations in words.

Here’s where I started…feeling like these were the things that mattered to me.

I even did a podcast about it.

Then I tried to think about these things and how they connected…I couldn’t make it work on paper and no one in my house was prepared to make a multi-dimensional model for me.

So I left it.

And read some more and watched the bracken unfurl.

And then yesterday I had a bit of a realisation.  That I have had these shifts into a new way of living before:

When I had kids  – which led to a family centered work life
When I had the breakdown – which led to the coaching, writing and all my well-being stuff
And each of these were accompanied by time out of work  which led to the shift integrating more fully.

And this feels like another one of those times of stepping out of the ‘normal’.   I wrote in my journal;

‘Like each is a new phase…with a gestation period so before stage one I was a child/student cared for by mum and grants, that was a long stage including travelling and relationships and marriage.  Then stage 2 was integrating kids and taking my foot off the hierarchical, material, external achievement pedal.  Then stage 3 was when I had a breakdown and 7 weeks of work which led to me having coaching and also the coaching training, which led to me I starting writing, met lots of people who I’m still close to and was the beginning of the end of my marriage.  And then now, COVID-19 the earth is calling me to live more simply and sustainably and more in tune with her.’

Then I woke up super early today and realised that each of these stages has had a gestation period followed by a rebirth of a different way of living.

Each time there has been a new rebirth I have had no idea of how to do it.  There were losses and hardships, confusion, chaos. I had no idea how to be a parent, no idea how to recover from a breakdown, but each time I knew something radical had to change in how I was living to accommodate something or someone new.

I felt my way. Sniffed. I worked it out slowly.  People showed up to guide and support me. Opportunities, books, courses, conversations appeared to help me. I tried things and dropped them if they didn’t feel right, and then then tried something else. Some things and people disappeared and some stayed. I felt my way and help was there when I needed it and I found my way forward and integrated the changes to a richer, deeper, fuller life.

So now, this phase feels like a rebirth into an eco-centric way of life.  I have no real idea what that even means. 

I have no idea what stage 4 will mean, how to do it, how to live it. I have no plans, no certainty. Even the above model might change again or totally.

But just like pregnancy when I knew something new was coming, or as I lay sobbing on the kitchen floor when I knew something old was dying, I can feel something has shifted that can’t shift back. You can’r un-see something that is seen or unfeel something that is strongly felt.

I await to see where the sniffing leads.  Will you join me?

xx

To see the model I created from these insight and for the books and podcasts which got me there click here.

Julie Leoni

Julie Leoni

Coach, author, podcaster, facilitator, Yoga and psychology teacher, learner

I have over 30 years of experience and qualification in various therapeutic and meditation/mindfulness based approaches. I work with change. Some changes we chose, others happen to us.  Sometimes we know we want to change but don't know how. Sometimes we don't want to change but external events or people are forcing us to change. The menopause, children leaving home, the end of a relationship or job, becoming a parent, coming out, bereavement are just some of the personal changes I support people with. I also work with people who want to make changes to their life and wider world in response to social issues such as Covid, the climate crisis and racial, sexual and gender inequalities. Times are changing whether we want them to or not and we need to be nimble, agile, curious and open in order to part of the new story emerging. Work with me to get clear on what matters to you, what makes your heart sing and what kind of future you want for yourself and those you love. It is possible to live differently, get in touch to explore how.

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